The poetry of music takes me places simple words can’t. When I first miscarried Mara, I found incredible comfort in sound. Sound kept me connected to the outside world, preventing me from getting lost inside my head. It was a bonus when the sound was melodic or meaningful. I combed the internet for lists of songs about miscarriage or the loss of a child, and I found many gems among the lists. As time has gone on, particular songs have become very meaningful to me, mostly because of how they make me feel when I hear them. Some of the songs I found in my initial search and some of the songs I stumbled onto on my own. But these are my favorites, the ones that make me smile and feel comforted when they play.
- Glory Baby (Watermark) – this is one of the few songs actually about miscarriage. It’s a lovely image.
- Home (Nicol Sponberg) – this song compels me like no other. The imagery in it – the idea of my baby waking up in the morning cradled by the Creator of the Universe – is incredibly moving and powerful. It’s sung by a woman who lost her own 8-week-old baby several years ago. I don’t know how she sang the song as beautifully as she did. It leaves me in puddles.
- From This One Place (Sara Groves) – I actually found this song before we got pregnant, but it has become more meaningful to me throughout this experience. It talks about how God sees the whole picture of my life, not just the situations I can see at any one moment in time.
- I Will Carry You (Selah) – I’ve been listening to this song for a year or two now, but the first time I listened to it after I lost Mara it took my breath away. It talks about how your child will always live in your heart, even after they’ve left this world.
- This Woman’s Work (several different artists, but I like the Greg Laswell version) – I’m told this song is about child birth, but I found it particularly appropriate and haunting. It’s a very pretty song.
- By Heart (Jim Brickman and Anne Cochran) – This is another song I’ve know about for a long time. We thought about having it at our wedding, but something seemed a bit sad about it. Hearing it after Mara made it all make sense, at least to me. It is pure loveliness.
- In The Wee Small Hours of the Morning (various artists) – It’s a classic, but it’s surprisingly appropriate when facing a significant loss.
- There You’ll Be (Faith Hill) – I find it a little corny and melodramatic, but it makes me happy anyway. The lyrics are lovely.
- Keep Breathing (Ingrid Michaelson) – not entirely appropriate, but it did find comfort in the repetitive lyrics of “all we can do is keep breathing.”
- Somewhere Over the Rainbow (IZ) – I love this song. For many more reasons that this, but it makes me think happy thoughts.
- Your Hands (JJ Heller) – I love this singer’s voice; it sounds so honest to me. I also really enjoy the sentiment that even when my world is falling apart there’s something bigger and more stable underneath it all.
- Held (Natalie Grant) – I’ve mentioned this song before and actually found it too overwhelming to listen to for quite a while, but I’ve added it to my playlist again and have been enjoying it. I wish I understood more about the apparent injustices in the world and why God chooses to let things unfold as they do.
- Before the Morning (Josh Wilson) – Good song. It kind of deals with the same idea as the song Held, but it’s different and direct and I like it.
- Fix You (Coldplay) – These were the lyrics that got me: “Tears stream down your face/when you lose something you cannot replace.” The entire song is good, but those were the lyrics that stood out to me.
- I Will Love You (Fisher) – “‘Til my body is dust/’til my soul is no more/I will love you.” Could it be anymore perfect than that?
- Find My Way Back Home (Priscilla Ahn) – This is what I would have imagined singing to my baby had I know what was going to happen.
- Beauty From Pain (Superchick) – This is what I imagine Mara would want me to be saying to myself right now: “After all this has passed, I still will remain/after i’ve cried my last, there’ll be beauty from pain/though it won’t be today, someday i’ll hope again/and there’ll be beauty from pain.”
- Slipped Away (Avril Lavigne) – This is one of the most appropriate songs I found. I don’t think it’s supposed to be about miscarriage, but since we knew the exact day when Mara left us the lyrics fit really well.
I’m always taking recommendations for new songs! Feel free to share if you have other suggestions.